Being a mother is not always easy. In fact, most days are hard work. And if you are a mum, you know that. You know that well. It has pulled me in so many directions, that sometimes my emotions can not keep up and I often question my own sanity. Some days are harder than others, but through all of this I can see the delights and the little life lessons that my daughter shows me daily. To society, I know I am to be teaching her the many life skills needed to grow to become a well-adjusted and sophisticated young woman that can contribute positively to our community. But most of the time, I believe there is so much we can learn from our children. These precious children come into this world with believing hearts. They are full of love, humility and obedience. If we just stop and look, our children bless our lives in such powerful, yet innocent ways. I can see this in my daughters eyes daily and I know that she has taught me a whole lot more than I feel like I’ve shared with her.
I wanted to share an experience that happened today. Now, this isn’t the first time something like this has happened in our house, but today it made me stop and think. It had been a hard and long day. Both on myself, emotionally and physically, and my daughter too. She was crying over everything. I couldn’t find the pink cup she so desperately had to have her juice in, the mandarin she had for morning tea ‘broke’ at the wrong moment when she was trying to peel it herself, and heaven forbid, I wouldn’t let her eat the raw chicken I was preparing for dinner. Just to name a few. It was at the end of the night, my husband was due home from work any minute and I was hanging on my last straw. I just needed to sit down, rest my aching pregnant body, and ease my nerves because I was about to explode. My daughter didn’t know this. She doesn’t know how exhausting this belly gets, how broken my back feels and how swollen my feet may feel. She doesn’t get that sometimes mummy just needs to relax for a moment. And that’s okay. She is only two. But tonight, she just wouldn’t have it. To be honest with you, I can’t even remember what my daughter was having a tantrum over at this point. But she was screaming, and I’m surprised my neighbours didn’t rush over with the noise she was making. Then, at that moment, we were sharing the tantrum. I was now sitting on the bathroom floor crying my eyes out, not sure how I could physically last the next five minutes before my husband got home. Then, after a few minutes, I was still beside myself, but I had noticed that my daughter had stopped and was now standing beside me. She so quietly had her hand on my back and was saying, “You ok, mummy?” I’m tearing up just re-living this with you. “Be happy ‘gain,” she went on to say. Her beautiful spirit had forgiven me for the mistakes I had made that day. She had been so quick to forget herself and was now only concerned about my own comfort. The roles had truly swapped. She melted my heart and there was not another moment spent crying, but moments full of kisses and cuddles. And for all my husband knows, when he walked in that very moment, we had been in such a great mood all day.
In the world we live in today, and from the many life experiences we are perhaps challenged with, I believe our innocence and ability to have a believing heart and a childlike faith is taken from us. But there’s a reason our children are here and by looking at their example, I feel their bright spirits have so much we can learn from. What a beautiful world we would live in, if we could see the lesson I learnt today from a two year old and be this quick to forgive. What has your child/ren taught you recently?